Sex is an emotion in motion.
— Mae West
LOVE AND LUST
It is not at all unusual to go through a phase of sexual exploration in life, when you may have a number of different sexual partners and engage in a wide range of sexual behaviors. For many people, this exploration coincides with the first period of freedom—the college years, or the first apartment, or, for some, after a divorce. It is, of course, no secret that having a number of sexual partners is potentially deadly these days. What about the effects, though, on your heart?”
I’ve seen the following visual example used: take two pieces of masking tape and stick them together. They stick well the first time. Take them apart and restick them. A little less sticky this time. The more often you bond the two pieces together and take them apart, the less ability each has to bond. Indiscriminate sexuality with multiple partners not only poses huge health risks, it creates the potential for damage to your ability to bond with another. I stress the distinction of indiscriminate sexuality here; I am not talking about sexual intimacy within the context of a loving, mutual, and respectful relationship.
For the next several days I will discuss conscious sexuality. I will help you to identify the place that sexuality has in your life: who you are as a sexual being, what values you have that are related to sexuality and intimacy, and how you can reach a comfortable place that honors your values and treats your sexual self with respect, joy, passion, and purpose.
A CONSCIOUS LIVING PRACTICE FOR TODAY – SEPTEMBER 3
Think back on the messages you received about sexuality as a child. Did your family treat the subject with openness or embarrassment? Did you ever see your parents touching or behaving sexually? When you touched yourself as a child, what was the response from your parents? Think on these questions and on how your sexual upbringing is with you still today. (No changes for today; for now you are just getting reacquainted with the beginnings of your sexual self.)
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