The Buzz
Let Your Mate Be Your Ally, Especially When You’re Stuck
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 12 OF 31
When we decided to end blame and criticism in our relationship (yes, you too can do this), a tangential surprise occurred. We stopped seeing each other …
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Attention is the Currency of Relationship
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 11 OF 31
Most of us learned that grownups are supposed to be emotional islands, self-sufficient and independent. This strong belief has truncated a vital source of support that …
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Your Body Knows—Give Attention to More Than Your Thoughts!
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 10 OF 31
One of our cats, Greta, loves to literally hurl herself at us in the morning to get attention. She’s so excited to have us up that …
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Turn Fear into Flow to Give Fresh Fuel to Your Relationships
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 9 OF 31
At the bottom of relationship issues you’ll find one central filter that generates separation—fear. The culture got on the adrenaline-fueled roller coaster of fear several decades …
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You Can Breathe Your Way into Relationship Bliss
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 8 OF 31
Stress often makes us breathe up into the shallows of the chest rather than down into the space of our bellies. Or you might just stop …
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Every Aspect of You Wants to Be Loved. By You.
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 7 OF 31
Does this sound familiar? When I lose 10 pounds I’ll be able to find love. When I finish my degree, I’ll be more attractive to potential …
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Giving Our Loving Attention 10/4/21
In today’s call Nicole Taylor joins us and begins by inviting us to look around the Zoom room and noticing who is joining us and to give our loving attention to them. She then invites us to turn our …
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Blame And Criticism are the Junk Food of Relationships
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 6 OF 31
Ahh, the crackle of breaking open the bag of crunchy, salty, fatty yummies! Blaming and criticizing—you or others—releases a burst of adrenaline, which has about the …
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Committing Gets You into The Game: Recommitting Lets You Create a New Game
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 5 OF 31
Committing still has a pretty formidable rep—many people confuse it with being restricted and controlled. Or they think, if I commit then mess up, it’s over. …
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Saying Something Real Creates Right-Now Intimacy
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 4 OF 31
One of our biggest relationship wows has been learning the power of authenticity. Being honest and transparent creates THE doorway to relationship magic. Something real doesn’t …
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