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You Can Create Exquisite Variety Without Leaving Your Partner or Having an Affair
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 17 OF 31
The culture has imposed some stereotypical stodginess on committed relationships, especially long-term ones. If you’ve worried that dull routine will take over your intimate connection, or …
Wonder Supplies the Rocket-Fuel for Juicy Relating
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 16 OF 31
Wonder is the opposite of blame. Wonder opens all your brain and body intelligence power to make new connections. When you wonder you see your relationship …
You Don’t Have to Completely Understand the Issue to Let Go of It
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 15 OF 31
Many people have the same attitude toward relationship issues that they hold about certain vegetables (you know, like rutabaga) they were made to eat for their …
Respond Or React? In Each Interaction You Grow or Defend
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 14 OF 31
Let’s get right to the acid test for your close relationship, for any relationship really–getting undefended in the right-now moments of your days. It’s SO tempting …
Favoring the Opening 10/11/21
We explored framing our practice of shifting attention with an intention to fuel something we want. Most people have a habit of giving attention to what’s wrong. Today we got curious about noticing and giving attention to what’s open both …
Take On Your Partner as an Appreciation Project
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 13 OF 31
If you are like most people, you intend to appreciate, you know how important it is, but you really don’t have an expanded appreciation vocabulary and …
Let Your Mate Be Your Ally, Especially When You’re Stuck
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 12 OF 31
When we decided to end blame and criticism in our relationship (yes, you too can do this), a tangential surprise occurred. We stopped seeing each other …
Attention is the Currency of Relationship
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 11 OF 31
Most of us learned that grownups are supposed to be emotional islands, self-sufficient and independent. This strong belief has truncated a vital source of support that …
Your Body Knows—Give Attention to More Than Your Thoughts!
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 10 OF 31
One of our cats, Greta, loves to literally hurl herself at us in the morning to get attention. She’s so excited to have us up that …
