Appreciation
Respond Or React? In Each Interaction You Grow or Defend
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 14 OF 31
Let’s get right to the acid test for your close relationship, for any relationship really–getting undefended in the right-now moments of your days. It’s SO tempting …
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Take On Your Partner as an Appreciation Project
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 13 OF 31
If you are like most people, you intend to appreciate, you know how important it is, but you really don’t have an expanded appreciation vocabulary and …
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Let Your Mate Be Your Ally, Especially When You’re Stuck
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 12 OF 31
When we decided to end blame and criticism in our relationship (yes, you too can do this), a tangential surprise occurred. We stopped seeing each other …
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Attention is the Currency of Relationship
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 11 OF 31
Most of us learned that grownups are supposed to be emotional islands, self-sufficient and independent. This strong belief has truncated a vital source of support that …
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Your Body Knows—Give Attention to More Than Your Thoughts!
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 10 OF 31
One of our cats, Greta, loves to literally hurl herself at us in the morning to get attention. She’s so excited to have us up that …
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Turn Fear into Flow to Give Fresh Fuel to Your Relationships
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 9 OF 31
At the bottom of relationship issues you’ll find one central filter that generates separation—fear. The culture got on the adrenaline-fueled roller coaster of fear several decades …
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You Can Breathe Your Way into Relationship Bliss
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 8 OF 31
Stress often makes us breathe up into the shallows of the chest rather than down into the space of our bellies. Or you might just stop …
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Every Aspect of You Wants to Be Loved. By You.
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 7 OF 31
Does this sound familiar? When I lose 10 pounds I’ll be able to find love. When I finish my degree, I’ll be more attractive to potential …
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Blame And Criticism are the Junk Food of Relationships
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 6 OF 31
Ahh, the crackle of breaking open the bag of crunchy, salty, fatty yummies! Blaming and criticizing—you or others—releases a burst of adrenaline, which has about the …
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Committing Gets You into The Game: Recommitting Lets You Create a New Game
OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 5 OF 31
Committing still has a pretty formidable rep—many people confuse it with being restricted and controlled. Or they think, if I commit then mess up, it’s over. …
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