Biggest Relationship Wows

Attention is the Currency of Relationship

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 11 OF 31

Most of us learned that grownups are supposed to be emotional islands, self-sufficient and independent. This strong belief has truncated a vital source of support that …

Your Body Knows—Give Attention to More Than Your Thoughts!

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 10 OF 31

One of our cats, Greta, loves to literally hurl herself at us in the morning to get attention. She’s so excited to have us up that …

Turn Fear into Flow to Give Fresh Fuel to Your Relationships

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 9 OF 31

At the bottom of relationship issues you’ll find one central filter that generates separation—fear. The culture got on the adrenaline-fueled roller coaster of fear several decades …

You Can Breathe Your Way into Relationship Bliss


OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 8 OF 31

Stress often makes us breathe up into the shallows of the chest rather than down into the space of our bellies. Or you might just stop …

Every Aspect of You Wants to Be Loved. By You.

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 7 OF 31

Does this sound familiar? When I lose 10 pounds I’ll be able to find love. When I finish my degree, I’ll be more attractive to potential …

Blame And Criticism are the Junk Food of Relationships

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 6 OF 31

Ahh, the crackle of breaking open the bag of crunchy, salty, fatty yummies! Blaming and criticizing—you or others—releases a burst of adrenaline, which has about the …

Committing Gets You into The Game: Recommitting Lets You Create a New Game

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 5 OF 31

Committing still has a pretty formidable rep—many people confuse it with being restricted and controlled. Or they think, if I commit then mess up, it’s over. …

Saying Something Real Creates Right-Now Intimacy

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 4 OF 31

One of our biggest relationship wows has been learning the power of authenticity. Being honest and transparent creates THE doorway to relationship magic. Something real doesn’t …

Appreciating Gives You the Highest ROI of Any Relationship Move

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 3 OF 31

Appreciating gets a lot of lip service. Yes, we all know that in good relationships, people are nicer to each other. But what does that mean? …

Being Right Isn’t Worth It

OUR BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP WOWS OVER 40 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – PART 2 OF 31

Let’s give credit to the most popular relationship sport: being right. There are many, many ways to claim victory in the being right domain, including …