Befriending Fear to Harness A New Fuel Source

It didn’t take long for me to start a timer on Google for FOUR minutes and start doing Fear Melters. As I went through some of the usual moves, I noticed I was shifting from love scoops to spontaneously slapping my chest and legs, not really hurting myself, it was more like matching the slaps…

My intention for today is to love my eyes. Giving them tender love scoops already. I am willing to love my eyes AND I think there’s something wrong with them. I think I have had that thought since I first experienced distance blurring in high school. I feel sad. And teary. Like I didn’t let…

I went to a dance competition this last weekend, and I used the fear melters again and again to process fear around showing up and being seen. I danced better than I’ve ever danced before, and my dance partner Bailey and I ended up winning. The moves we did are all improvised, but we decided…

I Love Root! I too have often fled into my head, thinking that would keep me safe. I now see it as isolating myself from Life.

While doing love scoops every morning for weeks I noticed a place I was NOT sending love… my fingernails. I had had a life long habit of biting my nails to the point of bleeding. I had generated tremendous shame (and pain) throughout my life with this embarrassing vice. So, I began sending drops of…

I noticed when I was sharing love scoops with a client recently that they were just going through the motions. The scoops were not landing emotionally. Once they began to land the scoops on their body with a small pause, there was a slight softening in they’re face. I like the idea of scooping something…

While doing my fear melters this morning I had the thought that “I wonder if a grounding Root would be supportive when I notice that I am fleeing to my head.” I giggled when I pulled the Integrity deck card Fear Melter: “I recognize the leaving quality of my body fleeing and easily shift into…

Crazy thought this morning—After noticing how much better I feel after Fear Melters and creative joint play, I wondered if the aches and pains I’ve recently experienced are just a bunch of knotted fears that have accumulated over 6-8 years of elder caregiving. Could be as simple as the aging process, but when I reflect upon…

I’ve been playing with seeing how subtly I can do Fear Melters, so that I can feel them on the inside but they are virtually undetectable from the outside.

… I Love Root! I too have often fled into my head, thinking that would keep me safe. I now see it as isolating myself from Life. I liked what Katie said Tuesday, something like “Integrity is the best way to create Safety.” I notice that Root helps me feel solid and complete, i.e. wholeness…

I resonated with the thought of doing FM’s while moving through my “normal” life. I felt so playful as I made my movements larger (taking up more space in the world) and kept moving forward. It gave me a burst of aliveness and I still feel the reverberations of playful energy. Delicious way to start…

…I like to add “HERE I AM” to my Root — and I love lifting up and then dropping my heels and saying “here I am” as a way to presence.

In this morning’s Love in Action live call, Kathlyn Hendricks suggested we could send Love Scoops to someone thousands of miles away, and I immediately thought of my mom and sent her some love… Then, a little after the call, I was chatting with her and my brother in our family chat, and I let…

…I love this share and the realization of being able to do these practices while on the phone. I love that before a virtual workshop I can do 2 minutes of Fear Melters in the room I’m presenting in. I’m noticing a little voice encouraging me to try them in person too…..

When feeling fear, the oozing had a different kind of effect than the other Fear Melters … I almost felt like I surrendered fully to the emotion — like melting — absolutely no resistance … like a rock with water just going around me … I felt sheltered and safe somehow like the fear washed…

When I first started doing Fear Melters, I was challenged by feeling the love scoops. My arms were scooping, scooping, and I was visualizing heart shaped rain drops, showers of loving waterfalls —you name it !— and I felt nothing. Until… I looked out the window. I’m discovering how visual and tactile my learning style…

After doing Fear Melters daily with my coach I was amazed at just how good I felt all day. I didn’t know I could feel this good all day.

I’ve been playing with finding my “sweet spot“ with my fear melters. When I’m moving, I’m feeling into the speed and rhythm and movement until it feels just right in my body. Like Goldilocks. If I’m moving too much or too quickly, I might still be aware of my body, but my awareness of my…

Doing day #2 this morning, I pulled the Fear Melter “Love Scoops” and learned a lot about my hidden resistances against gathering good feelings and well- being… hmmmmm…. a day of new discovery, so thankful.

The other night I woke up in the middle of the night from a tense dream, a nightmare. Laying there in bed, feeling my body so nervous and activated I went directly into doing Fear Melters® right there, in bed. I started with Ooze and Wiggling with a bit of extra shaking while I breathed…